Dear American Idol, I Hate You

Dear American Idol[atry],

I hate you.

You might be wondering what has caused my sudden outburst. You want to know what set me off? Paula Abdul getting booted from-- excuse me; I mean, 'quitting'-- the show. You mean to tell me that the ONLY person that Americans have ever actually idolized on that show is getting the boot??

And, dear old American Idol[atry], I’ll have you to know that Paula Abdul looks damn good for her age! Simon and Randy are old too! Why don’t they get the boot? Oh, I forgot-- they’re men.

My Very Brief List of Grievances:

1. Ryan Seacrest

2. Simon is not American; why is judging American Idol?

3. Randy says “dog” and “dude” waaayy too much

4. The winners are arguably the losers (except for Carrie Underwood & Kelly Clarkson AFTER she cut all ties with American Idol[atry])

5. The theme song is loud, annoying & old

6. Ryan Seacrest

7. If Randy brags about working with Mariah Carey "one mo’ ‘gen…"

8. Simon just happens to find only young, attractive people to be talented

9. Simon’s Baby Gap tees

10. Simon’s haircut

11. Ryan Seacrest

12. Runner-up Adam Lambert’s sexuality was conveniently exposed via personal photos a week before the final vote

13. I still haven’t forgotten about the big fuss over Fantasia’s baby on the show (not that it was the judges faults or anything…I’m just sayin)

14. Can’t even count the number of times the REAL talent gets overlooked

15. Simon is not American; why is judging American Idol?

16. Ryan Seacrest

17. Paula Abdul, the only star on the show is 'quitting,' aka getting fired because she's not a spring chicken

18. Ryan Seacrest's salary. Are his spectacularly mediocre hosting abilities worth $5 million more than Paula’s bizarre judgements of people who have more singing abilities than she ever did?

19. Did I mention that no one really cares about the winners?

20. Ryan Seacrest

On behalf of all Americans who are sick of this never-ending nightmare of a show, American Idol, we hate you.

--Shana

Unemployed Woman Sues College for Tuition

A 27-year-old New York woman (represent! lol) is suing her Alma mater, Monroe College in the Bronx Supreme Court for $70,000 in tuition money! She claims that the Office of Career Advancement did not follow through on the promises that it makes. Monroe College's spokeswoman declares that this lawsuit is "without merit."

Look, I don't know what exactly happened in this specific situation, but I can't help it-- I was GLAD to hear this in the news. It's about time someone started holding schools accountable for the debt that many schools practically require and the unmatched employment thereafter.

The fact of the matter is, employment standards continue to rise while employment continues to decline. I understand that colleges can't control the job market or the economy. And I also understand that in a competitive job market, individuals should distinguish themselves in various ways, namely through higher-level education. But, where does that leave the real, hard-working people who are trying to keep up, but the economy and job market won't let up? Is it honestly the faults of every single individual out there who took out loans to distinguish themselves in a competitive market? Is it a coincidence that there are thousands of Americans struggling with finding employment after spending ginormous amounts of money for higher education? And/ or could it be that colleges (and employers as well) need to be held more accountable? What should you do if you did your part (that includes using career services, networking, internships, fellowships, etc.), but the college didn't really do its part? Or maybe, this could be another example of an emerging era in which individuals claim less and less responsibility for their own actions (or lack thereof) and ultimately, their own lives.

Maybe this woman is just trying to get paid, but if her claims are true, I hope she gets every last penny of that tuition money and sparks something among the several Americans who are in this same situation.

...I'm just saying

Mr. Prez, VP, Dr. Gates, and Officer Crowley Enjoy Beer Together

I genuinely appreicate the effort and statement that Pres. Obama is conveying, but this is corny, phony, and-- most of all-- a waste of time. I'm sorry, but there is just too much going on in America and abroad for this photo op. And the prez agrees. I don't know if anyone noticed, but he wants health care reform for Americans, not phony beer talks to appease people who are too sensitive to the adverb, "stupidly."

What's the point of the lunch when neither Officer Crowley or Dr. Gates apologize or at least acknowledge their mistakes? America, we've got to do better. The first step in resolving a problem is admitting to having a problem. And until we, as a nation, first acknowledge that racism is real, and not a figment of 13% of the population's imaginations, progress in race relations will contine to be very limited.

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Side Notes:
1- Joe Biden is beasting on those peanuts or whatver they are. lol
2- If I see a photo of this beer get-together in a textbook for Black history, I'm burning it.

Confessions of a "Stuck-Up Spelmanite" Pt. 2: Charity Dating

Hello, world wide web! As you can see, I was serious about my Confessions of a "Stuck-Up" Spelmanite series.

Have you ever dated or considered going out with a person who wasn't really on your level? Who didn't really deserve to be with you, but you figured you'd be the down-to-Earth person you are and give it a try anyway?

Let me just say, no one really deserves to be with you until they have proven his/herself worthy of you. But there is a such thing as dating people on your level. Being on your level has several dimensions: education, morals, religion/faith, future goals/plans, politics, etc.

But have you ever felt like being totally open to the idea of dating a person regardless of the differences between you two backfired? When a person dates a someone who is not on their level and that person acts up-- I call it an unfortunate case of charity dating. Save your accusations of snobbery and elitism-- it's true.

Today's Strange Social Phenomenon: "Charity Dating"

Situational Description: You are a smart, attractive college student with a seriously bright future. You're interested in an average-looking person who does not and doesn't plan to pursue any kind of higher education. You two met by chance; let's say at a library. You two start seeing each other consistently, but instead of appreciating that he is fortunate to go out with a beautiful, intelligent, goal-oriented woman, he acts like "he got it like that." Starts treating you like some average "chick" once he's figured out that you like him.

Solution: Like Nancy Reagan said, "Just say no." Just say NO to charity dating! People rarely appreciate you and it doesn't matter how lucky they are to have met or dated you. I think it's just easier and more realistic to look for some basic similarities in a potential partner. That way, if you're going to get played, at least you won't feel like, "Damn, I lowered my standards for your no-goal-having, opportunistic [expletive]!"Please date people on your level.

AND THIS JUST IN! Reggie Bush just came to his senses; he's figured out that charity dating is a no-no [usually, at least].

Rep: Kim Kardashian, Reggie Bush Split

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'Assertive, Non-traditional, Independent' and other Gimmicks that Define the 21st Century Woman Ideal

No, this not a male-bashing rant. In fact, this is a self-assessment ("self," as in women).

Ever since the 1960's, Americans have taken a special interest in questioning and often changing traditions. And of course, change can be good. Change has brought about civil rights for most Americans (except certain rights for gays, but that's another topic). Change has given me the opportunity to pursue higher education; heck, for me to even sit at the front of the bus is the result of change. So clearly, I'm a proponent of positive change. But what about questioning "change" itself? Are all traditions evil?

21st Century Women, I hate to burst our little bubbles, but it's time to question the things and habits that we so proudly label "liberating," "free," "easier," "non-traditional," "assertive," "casual," etc.

• "Casual Sex" Oh really? Look, do what you gotta do. But I'm gonna say what I gotta say. As a woman myself and a student who has attended an all-girls' school and currently attends a women's college, I unofficially consider myself an expert on women (emotionally & socially speaking, at least). Here's my problem with supposed casual sex; the FACT that most young women are doing it to please a guy who isn't interested in committing to them in the first place. In a perfect world, all women who claim to have "casual" sex are just like Samantha Jones on Sex & the City (not necessarily in terms of the quantity of lovers, just her convenient lack of human emotions). Samantha has sex with the Mr. Right Now and usually walks away with no feelings for him. Now if this is HONESTLY you, then never mind. But to you women who know deep down inside that you're hoping for something more, try something called standards (I got that from Steve Harvey lol. http://browseinside.harpercollins.com/index.aspx?isbn13=9780061728976 ). You don't have to do away with monogamous, committed relationships just because it's "old school." But, hey! If you find giving yourself to someone who hasn't earned such a privilege as "liberating," then fine =).

• "Cohabitation" For the life of me, I just can't figure out how it's "21st Century" to give yourself a head start on taking care of a man. Maybe I'm weird, but I thought that was what marriage is for. I don't know about you, but I'm not about to rush to live with some dude who has no legal or financial obligations to me (unless we have kids), but can expect a fairly neat home, food, clean clothes, and sex whenever from me. And let's be honest, most men (and probably yours too) are not going to keep their "fair share" of cooking, housekeeping, and other roles that have been traditionally assigned to women...(That's usually because we let them get away with it, but that's just my view on it).

• "I HAVE to Work! I Just Couldn't BEAR to be a Housewife!" Throughout almost my entire life, I have felt as if it is wrong to be OK with the idea of being a stay-at-home mom, or whatever you call it. Why do people turn up their noses when you admit that you wouldn't mind taking care of your family full-time? I don't know if that's just city thing or what, but I feel like there's a code of uniformity about a girl's aspirations-- it's soooo terribly 1950's to be a stay-at-home mom in the 21st century. Don't get me wrong, I plan on taking care of myself with an interesting career, hopefully to make a positive difference in people's lives. I think it's great when a girl can aspire to and actually attain the life that she envisions. But what many fail to acknowledge is the fossilized expectation placed upon wives and mothers--regardless of whether she's PTA president or U.S. President (exaggeration, I know)--to still have dinner ready and take care of the house. Now, you can work tirelessly from 9 to 6 (you can forget about 9 to 5 these days) AND have dinner on the table by 7...all with a smile on your face!
  

My point? Let's stop looking down on the 1950's housewife stereotype and appreciate our freedom-- which includes the choice to be a stay-at-home mom.

• "Assertive Women" Firstly, let me just say that I agree with most of the principles of being more assertive. It's important to make sure you're getting the most out of life. Here's where I get a little resistant, however; does assertive mean that I ask men out and never expect my date to pay for me on a date? I respect the idea of stepping outside of your comfort zone and asking a guy out (every now and then). But I can't get down with this "She Got Her Own" gimmick. Just because "I got my own" doesn't mean that I can't expect my man to take care of me. If I ask a guy out, then that's different. But please believe; if a man asks me out on a date, then he should be paying! Ladies, let's not be so quick to jump on this Independent bandwagon and stop holding men responsible! If he likes you so much, he'll gladly pay for your dinner. Don't fall for this "She Got Her Own" gimmick; it's just an excuse to spend your precious time and not have to pay for it. If he likes you so much, then he'll be willing to commit to you, instead of calling it "casual" sex while he gets with you, her, her (maybe "him??"), AND your best friend.

So, beautiful ladies of the 21st century, live your life; but make sure you're being smart about it. If someone else is getting MORE benefits from your "21st Century Woman" lifestyle than you are, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate some of your habits. Yes change is good; but sometimes we have to listen to that old saying, "If it ain't broke, then don't try to fix it!"

Chris Brown Apologizes Like a Grown Man is Supposed To

My dearest readers! I have abandoned the blogosphere for a week, which is a year in blogging time. My apologies! I have several over-due posts underway now.

Down to business-- as everyone knows by now, Chris Breezy has released a public apology regarding the Rihanna assault incident in February. I have to say, it was extremely well done (minus the loud reddish-orange turtle neck). And though we know that Chris Brown didn't write those words himself, his publicist did an excellent job of conveying his real take on the situation. Unfortunately, cycles of abuse are continued from one generation to the next, just like in Brown's life. Considering his own childhood experiences, we need to have some compassion; it's really time that we (the public) begin to at least consider forgiving Chris Brown for his mistake that day.

But to all you women out there who justified his beat-down on Rihanna-- I just gotta say, "In yo face!" Nope, ya'll are not off the hook! Chris himself has accepted full responsibility-- as well as a real man should-- and doesn't create excuses or even condones his violent actions. You can stop making excuses for Chris now and go back to making excuses for your (possibly abusive) partner, like you usually do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=42S_5KZ2xuA

On a side note...That Oops! chain is reeaall suspect...I'm just sayin.

Confessions of a "Stuck-Up Spelmanite" Pt.1: The Female Once-Over

This is the first entry in my new series, "Confessions of a 'Stuck-Up Spelmanite" (A Spelmanite is a woman who attends/ attended Spelman College). This is basically my candid & relatable look into my thoughts about life as a presumed snob. Like many people, I've been labelled throughout most of my life. Sometimes nice, more not so nice, and some that leave me saying, "Uh, Thank You???"

For example, have you ever survived the social rite of passage that I call the "What I Thought When I First Met You" Ceremony? You know what I'm talking about... When someone finally figures out that you're a pretty cool, down-to-earth person instead of the stuck-up chick who "think she cute." You know those people-- they assume that they know everything about your character without ever holding a conversation with you. But once you're deemed "cool," then they spill all the beans about how stuck-up they initially thought you were. RANDOM PERSON: "You know what, Shana? You're really cool. Cuz I thought you were stuck-up at first!" ME: "Uh, Thanks?"

Gee, I'm soooo very happy that you decided to get to know me before you stamped me with "stuck-up" for all eternity!

Today's Strange Social Phenomenon: "The Female Once-Over."

Situational Description: You're walking down a city street to your job/internship. You're minding your own business, but you're walking with confidence (don't get it twisted). An anonymous female stares at you from head to toe (or vice versa), usually with a near-scowl on her face.

Solution: If you like my outfit or hair (which I didn't put that much effort into, by the way), please smile or nod. Otherwise, it just looks like you're giving me the death stare.

The Female Once-Over (aka The Death Stare)

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The "I Approve" Look (if you don't approve of another woman's outfit, just look away lol)

See the difference?